Suicidal Ideation

You're not alone; many of us have or had suicidal thoughts at some point in our lives. Feeling suicidal is not a character defect, and it doesn't mean that you are crazy, or weak, or flawed. It only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. This pain seems overwhelming and permanent at the moment. But with time and support, you can overcome your problems and the pain and suicidal feelings will pass.

Suicidal thoughts, or suicidal ideation, means thinking about or planning suicide. Thoughts can range from a detailed plan to a fleeting consideration. It does not include the final act of suicide. Suicidal thoughts are common, and many people experience them when they are undergoing stress or experiencing depression. In most cases, these are temporary and can be treated, but in some cases, they place the individual at risk for attempting or completing suicide. Most people who experience suicidal ideation do not carry it through, although some may make suicide attempts.

Many kinds of emotional pain can lead to thoughts of suicide. The reasons for this pain are unique to each one of us, and the ability to cope with the pain differs from person to person. We are all different. There are, however, some common causes that may lead us to experience suicidal thoughts and feelings. anyone who has suicidal thoughts should ask for help. If a loved one is having these thoughts, measures should be taken to help and protect them.

If you are unable to think of solutions other than suicide, it is not that other solutions don’t exist, but rather that you are currently unable to see them. The intense emotional pain that you’re experiencing right now can distort your thinking so it becomes harder to see possible solutions to problems or to connect with those who can offer support. Counselors, friends or loved ones can help you to see solutions that otherwise may not be apparent to you. Give them a chance to help.

Even if your suicidal thoughts and feelings have subsided, get help for yourself. Experiencing that sort of emotional pain is itself a traumatizing experience. Finding a support can be very helpful in decreasing the chances that you will feel suicidal again in the future. Remember that while it may seem as if these suicidal thoughts and feelings will never end, this is never a permanent condition. You WILL feel better again. In the meantime, there are some ways to help cope with your suicidal thoughts and feelings-

• Identify triggers or situations that lead to feelings of despair or generate suicidal thoughts, such as an anniversary of a loss, alcohol, or stress from relationships. Find ways to avoid these places, people, or situations.
• Take care of yourself. Eat right, don’t skip meals, and get plenty of sleep. Exercise is also key: it releases endorphins, relieves stress, and promotes emotional well-being.
• Build your support network. Surround yourself with positive influences and people who make you feel good about yourself. The more you’re invested in other people and your community, the more you have to lose—which will help you stay positive and on the recovery track.
• Develop new activities and interests. Find new hobbies, volunteer activities, or work that gives you a sense of meaning and purpose. When you’re doing things you find fulfilling, you’ll feel better about yourself and feelings of despair are less likely to return.
• Learn to deal with stress in a healthy way. Find healthy ways to keep your stress levels in check, including exercising, meditating, using sensory strategies to relax, practicing simple breathing exercises, and challenging self-defeating thoughts.

Although it might seem as if your pain and unhappiness will never end, it is important to realize that crises are usually temporary. Solutions are often found, feelings change, unexpected positive events occur. Remember: suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Give yourself the time necessary for things to change and the pain to subside.

Blessing In Disguise

Blessing is a word which is used commonly by people meaning, a positive word containing hopes and wishes for betterment. Blessing in disguise is something that seems bad at the beginning but turns out to be beneficial at the end. For example, if a rich man makes huge losses in his business and has to leave his home, car and every other comfortable and luxurious things he had once possessed. This situation turned him into a poor man but gradually the man understands his mistakes done in business and he comes up with a new idea that brings more money than before in his business and he now shifts in a bigger home with greater facilities.

This situation at first might seem difficult for someone living in the seventh heaven to felling rock bottom but later on, it turned out a blessing in disguise. The man wouldn’t have learned or got an idea to make his life bigger if the mistake was not made in first hand.

Poverty teaches a man many important lessons of life. When a man becomes poor his friends and relative who seemed to be very close to him leaves him. So whoever will support him and believe in him even in his bad days, they will be his friend in true essence. In this way, the man gets a chance to know who his real friends are. Although blessing in disguise is not always associated with poverty, it can be anything. Such as you missed your flight and ultimately found out the flight met an accident. Whatever seems to us as bitter trials are often Blessing in Disguise.

The stories of great personalities such as J.K Rowling, Oprah, Will Smith, etc. are the example of blessing in disguise. These people were not born with silver spoon or achieve success in one single day; they underwent loads of accidents and hardship before becoming a success. Blessing in disguise is serendipity. It is a form of sweet accident that results in positive consequences. Now you must be thinking how can accidents be positive? Well in some cases it can be. Plus positivity lies in the eyes of the beholder if one continues to see positive in anything he will end up making his life heaven. “Everything happens for your own good”. Careful scrutiny of any situation will make you discover the hidden blessing.

This is the reason our forefathers always asked us to look for the positive side of everything and never to curse any situation or event. Have faith take any hardship or complexity of your life as a challenge and believe that something better will come out of it.

“When you focus on being a blessing, God makes sure that you are always blessed in abundance”

Self Acceptance - What it is really about?

We hear so much about self-acceptance from people, who study or teach personal growth methods. What is self-acceptance? Does it mean accepting your weaknesses or negative habits and doing nothing about them? Does it mean accepting your behavior, attitude, and lifestyle, and doing nothing to change and improve?

It is so easy to give in to laziness and to find excuses for leaving everything as it is. Accepting your behavior and weaknesses, and doing nothing to improve, is not the right kind of self-acceptance. It does not contribute to real progress and improvement.

The term self-acceptance seems not to be well explained and well understood. Accepting yourself as you are is only the first step. It helps you realize your good, and not so good qualities, and can alleviate feelings of guilt, lack of self-esteem and unhappiness.

Self-acceptance does not mean that you accept what you are and do nothing to change and improve. It does not mean accepting your fate and life as it is.

Becoming aware and acknowledging your behavior, habits and your personality, and not being afraid to look at yourself as you are, is an important step to self-acceptance. When you accept yourself as you are, you put yourself in a better position to begin improving yourself. It is not an excuse for saying, "This is what I am. I accept myself as I am. I accept my character, my failings and my fate, and this how it is. I can do nothing about it."

Knowing yourself affords you the possibility to see what you can do to improve yourself and your life. Improvement requires that you understand and acknowledge your character and habits, stop comparing yourself and your achievements to others, and acknowledging your skills or the lack of them. This will bring some sort of inner peace, lightness, and happiness, like getting rid of a burden.

Remember, acknowledging your good and bad habits and traits of character can alleviate feelings of dissatisfaction, anger, resentment or unhappiness, but it is not an excuse for staying as you are, it is only the first step on the road to improvement and empowerment.

"Learning to love yourself for who are you, is SELF ACCEPTANCE  "