Most of us have felt it at one time or another. It could be a mild annoyance or like a fire inside you, consuming you and making you feel like you might explode. Although it is a common emotional reaction when a person is feeling threatened or humiliated, JEALOUSY is one of biggest relationship destroyers out there. It strikes people of all ages and genders, which are most typically aroused when a person perceives a threat to a valued relationship from a third party. The threat may be real or imagined.
Jealousy in simple words is the feeling that someone might try to take what is yours. Unlike simply being protective though, jealous feelings can balloon quickly into destructive behavior and cause us to act in ways that are selfish and controlling. It can even cause us to assume things are happening that are not. But conytolling jealously is a bad idea. People who struggle with controlling, jealous feelings are often struggling with deeper issues as well.
Jealous behavior can be extremely harmful to a relationship. At best the jealous person is needy and constantly looking for reassurance that they are the only one and that no one is a threat to replace them. Even though it may feel taboo, simply acknowledging jealousy's presence can both help ward it off in the future. At its worst jealously can manifest in controlling and distrustful behavior, and even physical or emotional abuse.
The foundation of any healthy and happy relationship is trust and respect. A person struggling with jealousy is unable to trust the person they are with or show respect for them as an individual or their boundaries. Overtime this behavior will destroy the feelings of love and affection that once existed. It will also likely cause repeated arguing and a need for one partner to prove themselves and their loyalty over and over again. This can be exhausting and prevent a relationship from growing and establishing a solid foundation.
Jealous behavior can be tough to control but not impossible. The underlying issues rarely go away on their own. If you have found that jealousy is a problem in your relationship, whether it is you that are jealous or the other party, it can be painful for both of you. Getting beyond it will take patience, communication and changing of beliefs. If it working together on overcoming jealous feelings and behaviors isn’t working don’t discount seeking help.
Exploring the emotions that underpin jealousy can inspire self-reflection that may help one to develop internal coping skills. Being honest with the other party about jealous feelings can spur productive conversations about what the relationship might be missing and how to repair the bond will help you. So some of the best lines goes like, “Sang rahiyo sang rahiyo, Samjhe na duniya, Tu to mujhko samjhiyo, Dil na-samajh hai, Dil ko kuchh bhi na kahiyo”
