One of the greatest barriers to accomplishments and to happiness is the feeling of inferiority. How many of us fail to try new things because we're afraid we don't have the ability to succeed? How many of us imagine, usually falsely, that others have a low opinion of us? How many of us suffer immensely from self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy? The answer to all these questions is that far too many of us suffer from such feelings.
Some of these feelings come from criticism that we have experienced from others in the past. Some people seem to think that the only way to build themselves up is to go around tearing others down. If we have encountered many of these people, we may have allowed the often-unjust criticism to affect our judgment of ourselves and our abilities. Nothing hinders achievement and accomplishment like feeling inferior and acting without confidence. Unfortunately, most feelings of inferiority and lack of confidence come from a lifetime of other people telling us that we can’t or that we aren’t good enough.
Some of these feelings come from criticism that we have experienced from others in the past. Some people seem to think that the only way to build themselves up is to go around tearing others down. If we have encountered many of these people, we may have allowed the often-unjust criticism to affect our judgment of ourselves and our abilities. Nothing hinders achievement and accomplishment like feeling inferior and acting without confidence. Unfortunately, most feelings of inferiority and lack of confidence come from a lifetime of other people telling us that we can’t or that we aren’t good enough.
The truth is that once you realize that these issues come from tiny little comments made by others, they seem pretty silly, and changing course becomes easy. If overcoming your feelings of inferiority is a process, then step one is figuring out where these feelings come from and understanding why it’s silly to let anyone make you feel a certain way. Next time someone tries to make you feel inferior, you’re probably going to get upset. But at some point, while you’re processing the insult, you’re going to remember this article. Then, I want you to stop, breathe, and consider what that insult really is.
On one level, the insult is simply a string of words, and words can’t affect you. You can choose not to assign any meaning to those words, and avoid feeling blue all together. On the second level, insults are usually words of sad and hurt people. Ask yourself: what kind of barrier is this person trying to put up by acting in this way? Is he trying to protect his own insecurities and faults? The answer is almost certainly ‘yes’. Real winners and people with real confidence don’t put people down; they pull them up.
Mentally strong people can prevent so much grief and are ready to accomplish so much more because they understand the criticism for what it is: a sad and lonely person’s reflection of themselves. Not only do strong people let insults slide off, but they respond by being kind-hearted and helping to lift the bully up – attempting to not only keep themselves above water but to pull others up with them as well.
In doing so, we must be careful not to go from one extreme to another. Just as we do not want to feel inferior to others, we must guard against the tendency to sometimes feel superior to others. We must make the most of our abilities to accomplish whatever we can for both ourselves and our fellow human beings. Most of us can accomplish so much more than we think we can if we can just maintain a positive attitude about ourselves, and life, in general. But feelings of inferiority can get in the way and diminish our abilities. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, we must always remember that no one can make us feel inferior without our consent. We should never consent to feel inferior because we are not inferior. We are all important individuals with our own set of unique talents.
No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent
Mentally strong people can prevent so much grief and are ready to accomplish so much more because they understand the criticism for what it is: a sad and lonely person’s reflection of themselves. Not only do strong people let insults slide off, but they respond by being kind-hearted and helping to lift the bully up – attempting to not only keep themselves above water but to pull others up with them as well.
In doing so, we must be careful not to go from one extreme to another. Just as we do not want to feel inferior to others, we must guard against the tendency to sometimes feel superior to others. We must make the most of our abilities to accomplish whatever we can for both ourselves and our fellow human beings. Most of us can accomplish so much more than we think we can if we can just maintain a positive attitude about ourselves, and life, in general. But feelings of inferiority can get in the way and diminish our abilities. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, we must always remember that no one can make us feel inferior without our consent. We should never consent to feel inferior because we are not inferior. We are all important individuals with our own set of unique talents.
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